Random Surprising Facts About Orthodox Jewish Sex Lives & Beliefs (12 items)

(#7) Kinky Sex Is Fine - Just No Group Stuff
Bondage between a Jewish man and woman is generally considered just fine - provided they are married, of course. As long as both the man and woman are open, interested, and down to be pinned down, there is no reason they can't try almost any type of kinky sex. The exception? Group sex, partner swapping, or polyamory - kink has to be kept within the bounds of monogamous married couples.
(#9) Hair Is for Husbands Only

Orthodox Jewish men and women dress very modestly. Both sexes are encouraged to wear clothing that doesn't call attention to the wearer's appearance, including clothing that is tight, revealing, brightly colored, or garish.
Women are encouraged to wear long skirts and to cover their hair with a hat or scarf. Many Orthodox women also wear wigs over their natural hair - this way, the beauty of their real hair is enjoyed only by their husbands in private.
Jewish laws concerning modesty (called tzniut) also prohibit wearing clothes associated with the other sex - for example, men are not supposed to wear dresses or other women's garments.
(#4) The Woman Must Come First

A husband has an obligation to satisfy his wife sexually, through whatever means she requests, including oral sex or the use of sex toys. Not only does this lead to happier marriages, but traditionally, it was thought that letting a wife orgasm first would make her more likely to conceive a son.
(#2) Male Masturbation and Homosexuality Are Banned

The Talmud prohibits men from "wasting their seed;" that is, performing sex acts where semen isn't being used to potentially create new life. In the most extreme versions, some rabbis have argued that wasting semen is as bad as killing a child, since you are preventing that child from being born.
For this reason, conservative Judaism outlaws male masturbation and male homosexuality. Other sex acts, like oral and anal intercourse for men, are permitted as a form of foreplay, but the male partner must always ejaculate into this partner's vagina.
(Female masturbation, by contrast, is not explicitly forbidden by the Torah, though some rabbis discourage it. The Torah is also silent on the topic of lesbianism.)
(#12) The Holy Day Is for Getting Down

Ah, the Sabbath. A nice relaxing day to connect with God and your sexual partner.
Orthodox Jews have very strict Sabbath rules that prevent them from doing everything from to turning on the radio to mowing the lawn, but since having sex within a marriage is a mitzvah, it is looked highly upon on the holy day! Plus, it helps spread the Jewish seed, one of the primary preoccupations of the Torah.
(#8) There's No Hole in the Sheet

Consider this rumor debunked. Jewish men do not have sex through a hole in a sheet.
A tallit katan is a large, white garment that looks somewhat like a poncho, that Orthodox Jewish men sometimes wear. Many people think the whole "hole in the sheet" sex theory stems from non-Jews seeing this white, sheet-like garment being hung outside to dry and assuming it was for sex. Of course, the hole in the sheet is also huge, since a man's head is meant to fit through it.
In fact, Orthodox Judaism encourages men and women to sleep together naked, and to have sex naked, in order to increase intimacy.