Random Bisexuals Describe Differences of Dating Guys and Girls (15 items)

• (#3) People treat you differently when you switch it up.

  "It wasn't so much about difference between the people I was dating - I'm willing to chalk that up to the individuals, rather than their genitalia - but I would say that people who knew me with a boyfriend treated me differently than they did when I had a girlfriend, and vice versa. 

  It's sort of like people would have been fine with me being straight and fine with me being a lesbian, but watching me switch from men to women and back again caused a sort of cognitive disconnect. 

  (I'd like to point out that I was never treated badly as a result of this. It was always just interesting to watch people do a double take when they met my new partner, especially because several of them have had gender-neutral names.)"
• (#11) Being with a woman makes you feel more secure.

  "I (female) find that being with women is a lot more secure in a way. My girlfriend and I aren't scared to talk about the future, it wasn't even an issue early on. Whereas when I've been with men in the past I daren't talk about anything even a couple weeks in the future when things are just starting out, for fear of scaring them off. Then again, that might not be a difference between genders, more that my girlfriend is the one unlike other people I've been with. Oh and also, sex and stuff."
• (#6) There's less pressure when dating a guy.

  "I'm a bi guy, I've dated both guys and girls, though at this point I've realized that I'm just overall much happier with women. I can't connect with guys on an emotional or sexual level like I can with women.

  Guys give much, much better [BJs].

  Girls are much, much better kissers...

  There's less pressure (real or imagined) to last longer in bed...

  Less focus on foreplay with guys.

  There's less pressure (real or imagined) to provide for a guy. In relationships with women I've usually split things evenly as well, but there's more of a natural inclination to pay for sh*t.

  There's no designated bug killer when dating guys.

  When on dates with another man, there's a little bit of self-consciousness in regards to little things like holding hands. We'd still do it anyway, but it's otherizing a bit. Society has progressed a lot, but not completely.

  Flirting with girls turns me on much more than flirting with guys.

  I've found guys to be less sensitive to my emotional needs than women, but that could partially just be an individual difference with the people I've dated."
• (#8) There's a difference between how you do your makeup for a girl and how you do it for a guy.

  "Hi there, bisexual woman here.

  -With women, everyone will assume you're just best friends.

  -Women tend to be more responsive to the subtleties in your body language during sex.

  -With women, you really have to figure out your own relationship roles, since there's no male-female roles that are preassigned. It was really weird when I dated a guy after dating a girl, because he assumed I would want to fill traditional roles. After ignoring those roles completely with my girlfriend, it was weird.

  -With my girlfriends, I don't feel the need to make sure my legs are 100% hairless. Because we get it, shaving every day is stupid.

  -Wearing makeup for my boyfriend means highlighting my best features to look hot. Wearing makeup for my girlfriend means trying new things, because she'll notice the more subtle things and appreciate the wilder stuff."
• (#10) Men aren't interested in marathon sex.

  "What I have noticed is that sex is much different. I don't mean physically (of course it is), but the attitude/goal. For example, most men I've been with have been perfectly OK with like 90% of our sex being what amounts to a quicky. Five minutes is fine with most of the men I've been with most of the time. 

  With women it seems that it is more about the experience, and I've been with a couple women who very much enjoy marathon sessions (Not always, of course), and I've never been with a single guy who wants to go that long. Just my two cents."
• (#4) Women are better kissers.

  "I'm female. The way girls kiss is staggeringly different from the way men kiss. I prefer to date men in terms of sexual compatibility, but Christ are women better kissers. Women are softer and more responsive to physical cues, where as men tend to be like, 'This is what I've done before and no one ever said it sucked so I'll keep doing it!'"

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