Random Stories And Insider Facts About BDSM Dungeons And Sex Parties (13 items)

(#6) Working In One Of These Clubs Is Just Like Working Anywhere Else

Except you get to physically engage your clients.

While visiting the Sanctuary in Los Angeles, a writer for LA Weekly noted:

Every few minutes, girls dressed in skimpy costumes click by on stripper heels. One carries a bag of McDonalds; another totes a laptop that she'll later use to check her Facebook page in between clients. So remember, when you do decide to check out your local [club], the folks working there are just trying to get through their shift.
(#13) People Trust Each Other

The bondage scene is basically one big trust fall. If you're going to your first event and it's in the middle of nowhere or a secluded office building that looks like a location from 28 Days Later, you have to trust that your dom isn't going to put you in a steamer trunk. Unless that's what you're into.

Looking for a dom in this world is kind of like dating: You have to find someone you're comfortable with, especially if they're going to be playing. And remember, it's okay to say no.
(#9) For Many, These Clubs Represent A Place To Be Free From Social Constraints

One thing to keep in mind about the scene is most people who attend underground parties and hang out have jobs and lives where they can't go on and on about their leather corset collection. Raunchy nights or a trip to a club is a big deal to many people. Because of this, you'll see all kinds of costumes at an event - for a lot of attendees, it's their only opportunity to be who they see as their true self. Let the proverbial freak flag fly.

It's not uncommon to see someone wearing "nothing but a miniature cage padlocked to [their private areas]." And no one is there to judge, so before you laugh or stare or comment, think how it would make you feel if someone laughed at your closest held secret.
(#10) Learn The Rules Of The Scene (Because It's Not Just About Getting It On)

Different scenes have different rules. They're like restaurants in that way.

It's assumed that "no shoes, no shirts, no service" is a thing across the board, but depending on where you find yourself late on a Thursday night, you might want to ask if it's okay to get it on in a most rude manner. So says the rules of one particular club:

Play parties are not orgies: Sex isn't the main focus. But it does happen sometimes during scenes. This is either if the people playing are in a pre-established relationship that includes sex and decide to include it in a scene, or if they're playing casually, and doing a scene where some form of penetration has been pre-negotiated (usually pretty rare, but possible).
(#12) Legal Definitions Of Intercourse Are Tricky

How you and your partner define intercourse is probably different from the way one NYC mistress thinks about the literal ins and outs of it. This definition may also come down to what the police think.

According to one Redditor, "The line between sex and non-sex activity is a very fine line. Penetration is usually the defining factor... It’s also something that law enforcement decides whether they want to pursue or not."
$Vanilla Fun: Light Latex And Leash Play For Beginners on Random Stories And Insider Facts About BDSM Dungeons And Sex Parties$

(#1) Vanilla Fun: Light Latex And Leash Play For Beginners

When writer Gareth May visited this very interesting club (as one does), he had a firsthand look at the apex of what some call vanilla play. There were people leading one another around on leashes, dancing, and wearing lots of latex.

While May didn't see any action in the open, that doesn't mean people weren't having a good time:

As you stood on the sidelines you could make out the little clusters of bodies in the corners, [pulling] at one another, reaching under latex skirts, kneading... shoulders, whispering their fantasies into the ears of their loved ones as others’ played out in front of their eyes.

When it was time to go home, revelers fell into more socially acceptable patterns, dissociating themselves from the event and lifestyle. As May described it:

By now it’s 4 am and the club is emptying. People are leaving the cloakroom, buttoned up in trench coats, their revealing costumes covered up like a superhero’s garb, a secret life hidden from reach.