Random Signs Someone Is Talking About You Behind Your Back (20 items)

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  (#1) Hot and Cold

  The way to know if people are talking about you is by studying who they are. This is especially true of the way they have been particularly acting towards you - and acting towards you lately. If someone is being hot and cold, on and off, friendly and unfriendly with you, this could speak to the fact that they're talking behind your back.
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  (#2) You're on the Reverse End

  As the saying goes, "Those who gossip with you, gossip without you." If you are someone who is paranoid that people are talking about you, listen close for someone else's name to pop up. There's a solid chance your friends who really enjoy talking about other friends secretly are doing so about you when you are not around.
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  (#3) The 'Stop and Chat' Stop

  Ever walk over to a group of people who are mid-conversation and the conversation just so happens to stop? That's a good way to know if people are talking about you behind your back. "Stop and chats" occur from high school hallways to office water coolers, but if those stop and chats come to a sudden stop, it might be because the chat was about you.
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  (#4) The Stink Eye

  "The Stink Eye" is a glare-esque expression that another person gives you when, let's just say it, they're not your biggest fan. If someone is talking about you in a group of others, they might be giving you a look that signifies they're doing so. That deadpan snarl is definitely not a good sign!
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  (#5) Why Are You Whispering?

  If folks are a-whisperin' in places that seem awkward to be whispering in, it very well might be about you. One of the tell-tale signs of people talking smack about someone nearby is lowering of the voice. Remember: secrets, secrets are no fun...
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  (#6) The Turn and Talk

  Check your back. If you are someone who is often, or perhaps just recently, wondering, "Are people talking about me behind my back?" then the best way to know is to keep a close watch on things behind you. Of course, humans have yet to evolve with eyes in the back of their heads, but we've been blessed with a decent sense of listeners, so perk up those ears!
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  (#7) Way Too Nice

  "Geez, that person seems a little too friendly." This is a very common thought people have upon interacting with someone who has recently been talking secretively about you. Perhaps they feel guilty about doing so or perhaps they just really want you to think they totally love you, but either way it is a classic psychological symptom displayed by recent gossipers.
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  (#8) Group Mind

  Sadly, gossip infiltrates groups and spreads like a virus. It makes people uneasy and it throws off the energy among friends and family alike. People who are the subject of gossip will often know it, because there seems to be a group mentality and they are, now more than ever, feeling on the outside of something.
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  (#9) Low Self-Esteem

  Often, people who gossip suffer from low self-esteem; they have to talk down about somebody else because they are down on themselves. Listen closely to friends or co-workers who are overcompensating or envious in nature. These people are most likely to be whispering and giggling when you're not around.
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  (#10) Say My Name

  Sure, your name might be common. But if you're the only Xavier at the workplace, one has to wonder if you're the same Xavier who's at the center of some scandalous office rumors. People who say, "I'm paranoid that people are talking about me" can start to perk their ears legitimately once they overhear their own names.
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  (#11) Was it Something I Said?

  If people disperse when you arrive or when you happen to be on your way, there's reason to suspect you were the subject of conversation. When groups scatter, that's usually a sign that the people in question were talking about you before you headed over.
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  (#12) Awkward Silence

  Awkward silences arise for various and legitimate reasons. Perhaps people have just run out of things to say or maybe there's sexual tension. However, one popular reason for an awkward silence is that someone has been talking negatively about you. This is particularly the case if someone has just been spreading rumors about you before you arrived.
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  (#13) Amateur Actors

  The truth is, people have trouble hiding the truth. Most of your friends are not that talented at acting, so an acute observer can tell if someone has been up to no good lately. Check for people who are overacting or whose voices get oddly higher-pitched when they deny having been talking about you.
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  (#14) One-on-One

  The way to get a good sense of whether your suspicions are legit or not is get the suspect face-to-face. It is hard to read people in groups, especially people who are more manipulative or insecure, so you can always try to get the person to be alone with you. Their discomfort, or lack thereof, can really help you determine what they might be up to.
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  (#15) Start Spreading the News

  Sometimes a rumor will spring up about you and you'll wonder how it got there. The truth is, this reveals the sad fact that others were indeed talking behind your back. Think hard about the people who might have made something like this up (or know the rumor to be true, if it is) and listen close for public knowledge of something you wanted private.
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  (#16) You're on Point

  One of the ruder things a man or woman can do is point to his or her fellow human being. It's a blatant, in-your-face gesture and yet it is usually directed towards you without the intention of speaking to you. Look around to see if you're the only one there when someone is pointing!
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  (#17) A Case of the Giggles

  There are lots of reasons that people will break into fits of laughter. However, you have to make sure that this particular reason is not based on you or something you did. Be suspicious of those who laugh nearby, perhaps looking in your direction, when you do not know the subject of the comedy yourself.
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  (#18) Tricky Test

  If you really want to outsmart the secretive individuals who are potentially gossiping about you, there are indeed ways. You can always test a person out by assuming that they already heard something about you that they normally wouldn't or by gauging someone's reaction when you act as if you already know that a specific person was talking about you.
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  (#19) Sixth Sense or Paranoia?

  Finally, before you launch a full-scale investigation, make sure you have totally legit reason to suspect people of talking behind your back. Some individuals happen to be born with an inherent ability to sense energies in this regard while others are just downright paranoid. If you have to question whether or not your friends have been talking behind your back, you have to question those friends entirely.
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  (#20) Don't Check My Texts

  We all have that friend who gets super jumpy when someone gets a hold of his or her cell. One way to figure out if your amigo is texting stuff about you that he or she does not want you to see is by noticing how freaked out they get when you get your hands on their iPhone. 

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