Random Signs People're Not So "Nice" (12 items)

• (#1) Nice Guys Feel Entitled To Certain Treatment

  Graffiti seen in Melbourne...#NiceGuys #RickandMorty pic.twitter.com/53G7RidpYj

  — �� Devan De Sade (@devandesade) December 11, 2017

   

  The most obvious sign of a Nice Guy is someone who doesn't understand why they're not rewarded with sex for doing something "good." Be it holding a door open for someone or driving a friend home when they're too drunk to drive, Nice Guys are obsessed with what you owe them for not leaning into their worst fantasies. There's no cosmic force that tallies up your good deeds in order to dish out an appropriate amount of rewards, and if you're doing something specifically because you want to be rewarded, they aren't actually good deeds. A popular unattributed quote sums it all up nicely: "Women are not vending machines that you put kindness coins in until sex falls out."
• (#2) Nice Guys Consider Dating A Game

  #Scaramucci reminds me of a coked up/cleaned up Erik von Markovik aka Mystery. #DylanPickle #pickupartist pic.twitter.com/eITleNmcRp

  — Dylan Pickle (@9yoDylanLoves45) July 28, 2017

  Somewhere in your dating life, you came across The Game by Neil Strauss and felt like it held all the answers. Or maybe you saw Swingers and adopted Vince Vaughn's rule about waiting two days to call a woman. Whatever the case, Nice Guys treat relationships like they're an RPG – that if they spend enough time grinding XP, they'll become a true chick magnet. There's no strategy to dating aside from being yourself, learning from your mistakes, and hoping that you'll be present enough to realize in the moment when the right person has come along. 
• (#3) Nice Guys Dish Out Backhanded Compliments

  It's really easy to give a compliment that has zero subtext. "Those are nice shoes." "Your hair looks great." "What a great apartment." People (not just women) love hearing those things and they don't make the person you're complimenting wonder what you meant by giving said compliment. The problem with Nice Guys' compliments is that they carry a subtext with them that says, "You could be better at this thing." For instance, saying that someone has nice hair even though it's frizzy is a Grade-A backhanded compliment, and it's something that Nice Guys do all the time. Cut it out, dummies. 
• (#4) They Can't Fathom Why Someone Would Want A Little Personal Time

  If you're a Nice Guy who actually managed to nab himself a girlfriend, then congratulations. Now stop smothering her! If someone wants to hang out with her friends or sit at home alone, she isn't devising a perfect plan to cheat on you. She's just decompressing. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you're supposed to spend every hour of your day obsessing about your significant other; it doesn't even mean that you're going to see your significant other every day. If your partner or the person you like is busy or just needs some space, then give her all the space she needs. They'll appreciate that you respected her feelings, and you might even get around to building that shelf you've been thinking about. 
• (#5) They Freak Out If They Don't Get Their Way

  In @tnyshouts: "Why won’t women date me, a very nice guy?" https://t.co/6TGkilIdok pic.twitter.com/een3YHaJCa

  — The New Yorker (@NewYorker) December 14, 2017

   

  A lot of Nice Guys come from a home where they were never told "no" by their parents. They haven't faced rejection in any real way, so when they're turned down by the object of their affection, they freak out and punch a wall. Learning how to handle rejection, or even just bad news, with aplomb is something that has to be learned over time. If you throw a tantrum or act out inappropriately when something doesn't go your way, then how do you expect to handle the curve balls that come with real life? Think about it, NGs.
• (#6) Nice Guys Aren't Friends With Any Of Their Exes, Because They Are All "Crazy"

  When determining who's a nice guy and who's a Nice Guy, observe how they interact with their ex-girlfriends. If you bring up a Nice Guy's ex, he'll usually say something about how she's "crazy." This is a tell-tale sign of someone who's pretending to be nice to get what they want. Everyone has had a bad relationship, but most adults are friends with a few of their exes, or at the very least can talk about them in a civil manner. Staying friends after a breakup is a sign of maturity. If a guy can't even be civil with someone with whom he had a long-term relationship, you may want to rethink spending your own time with him. 
• (#7) Nice Guys Can't Take "No" For An Answer

  Even if you manage to go on a date (or two, or three) with someone, that person still doesn't owe you anything. Sometimes people don't gel, or they're in two different places in their lives, and that's that. If someone tells you that she doesn't want to see you again, the best thing you can do is accept that decision and get on with your life. Don't be pushy and promise the moon or turn into an angry douchebag; instead, just be chill for once in your life. Most Nice Guys do not have this ability and don't see how their transactional view of relationships is incredibly problematic.
• (#8) They See Friendship As A Means To An End

  Tell me, how long is that neckbeard? pic.twitter.com/Ym2ihjI3RY

  — Punished Aqua (@Aquabased) October 28, 2017

   

  Nice Guys are notorious for bringing up the dreaded "friendzone." Unfortunately for them, the friendzone isn't a thing that actually exists. It's just called being friends. Is it really so bad that someone likes your personality enough to be friends with you? Instead of turning every interaction that you have with a woman into an attempt to weasel your way into some sex, why not try having a genuine conversation? Or just never talk to anyone again. 
• (#9) They Act Like Giant Babies

  One of the worst things about Nice Guys is how they don't do anything. They sit about and complain about how the world is unfair while they watch fedora reviews on YouTube and daydream about the women they'll never date. No one finds it attractive when a guy is stuck in a perpetual cycle of adolescence. It's fine if you like playing video games and eating queso alone, but there has to be something else to your personality than the fact that you act like a 13 year old. 
• (#10) Nice Guys Can't Communicate Their Feelings

  If you want to be in a long-term relationship, you have to learn how to communicate. Nice Guys would rather sulk and brood than have an actual conversation with whatever helpless young woman they manage to snare in their Cheeto-dusted talons. A relationship can't last if both partners aren't putting an equal amount of work into it. If you aren't prepared to have a few tough days in your relationship, then you don't deserve to experience the highs that can come from spending your best days with someone you love. 
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  (#11) Nice Guys Go From 0 to 100 Instantly

  One of the strangest things about Nice Guys is how quickly they escalate things with unsuspecting women. There are hundreds of catalogued exchanges between Nice Guys and the objects of their affection where they start with "you seem really nice" and jump to "I would make sure you were cared for and protected." No one wants to hear a stranger tell them that they're the only person who can protect them. When a Nice Guy says something along those lines, it usually comes with an implied "or else." Take it easy when you're talking to someone. You don't have to prove how great you are in an opening text message; you just have to prove you're not a creep.
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  (#12) Nice Guys Buy Into The (Imaginary) Jock V. Nerd Binary

  At some point, people began to believe the myth preached by '80s movies: that jocks and nerds exist in an eternal struggle for superiority. Nice Guys believe that the world is a giant high school where women are attracted to jocks and frat bros while sidelining anyone who isn't propping themselves up as an alpha male. This way of thinking is incredibly sad, and it shows that so-called Nice Guys believe that they need to play the victim in order to get anyone to pay attention to them. The truth of the matter is that there is no single way any person needs to be. You can be a jock (whatever that means) who is a nice person in the same way that a Nice Guy can be a complete douchebag. 

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