Random Reasons Why Those People Regret Divroce Now (18 items)

• (#13) They Didn't Realize He Was Autistic

  From Redditor /u/cerebralvomit:

  I wish I investigated further as to why he was an uncommunicative, self-involved d*ck. Turns out, it wasn't on purpose - he is very mildly autistic. If we discovered that after we married, (he didn't know it either), it would have been a whole different ballgame.

  I understand illness, not someone being a d*ck on purpose. Turns out, he wasn't a d*ck on purpose.
• (#16) Divorce Was More Harmful Than They Thought It Would Be

  From Redditor /u/endlessincoherence:

  The marriage was great and we were very compatible. Divorce did more damage to me than I'll even admit.

  It was good to experience young love but if I could do it again I would focus on myself and not get married.
• (#3) They Realize Now How Compatible They Were

  From Redditor /u/unrliable_narrator:

  I was very unhappy and blamed him for all of it, when it was just some of it. I should have stayed and tried harder to make it work.

  I've dated a couple of people since then and I only now realize how compatible I was with my ex and how rare that is.
• (#9) They Were Too Lazy To Make Their Marriage Work

  From Redditor /u/maniakmekanik:

  I initiated the separation because none of the problems we had talked about were being addressed. I wasn't going to put in more work... I wasn't able to at the time (crappy work schedule, always sleeping during the day).

  At least I told myself I wasn't able to. If I had put in 15 to 30 minutes of extra effort every day, I could have saved what we had, and made her feel a lot better about herself, and us in general. But I guess I was just a lazy [piece of sh*t].
• (#2) They Prioritized Their Medical Career Over Marriage

  From Redditor /u/dthrowaway89:

  I'm recently divorced and miss my ex-wife immensely. We had been together for eight years, and married for two. I was the one who initiated the divorce, and my reasons for doing so were selfish. It's a pretty long story, but the TL;DR of it was that I had grown dissatisfied with my life and burned out with my career, and thought my marriage was the reason for my dissatisfaction.

  We met in college, hit it off, and eventually got married... During this time I was going through the process of becoming a physician, which is a pretty long, grueling process that includes studying for the MCAT, applying to medical school, going through medical school, then applying for and going through residency. She was with me during this entire period, and helped support me financially, emotionally, and physically, and took care of a disproportionate amount of the housework and other day-to-day things.

  Things were going well for me careerwise and I had matched into my dream residency program at a prestigious institution. We were happy and excited to start our new lives together in a new city. We got married before we moved and had a wonderful wedding, which in our eyes was perfect. Unfortunately, our wedding took place right before we were about to move, and in my eyes we didn't have time to take a honeymoon.

  This is probably where the trouble began. It wasn't just the honeymoon: medical residency is brutal and the work hours are terrible (on average I was working 70 hours a week). In my mind, I didn't have time anymore to take her out on regular dates, and our time at home began turning more into time spent separately. Our sex life suffered (my libido became very low and I frequently felt too tired when she was in the mood). Even climbing, our hobby we used to always do together, became something we started doing separately.

  I became more withdrawn, cynical, and jaded, and blamed the marriage for my unhappiness. I started thinking about what things would be like if I were with someone else, and all of this took a toll on our marriage. I gave almost no effort despite our efforts to try to repair things, and eventually asked for a divorce. There was little drama, and everything was essentially amicable.

  Initially, I thought I had made the right decision. Soon, however, the weight of my decision started sinking in. Dating has been a frustrating experience, with many lukewarm encounters, ghosting, and other things that seem to be all too common with modern dating. I realized the things I was looking for were things I had with my ex-wife, and for a long time I had taken her support and nearly unconditional love for granted.

  Unfortunately, I had damaged our relationship beyond repair in her eyes and she had moved on, enjoying her new freedom in being single and her new ability to independently pursue any career... 

  I'm truly glad she's happy and wish her nothing but the best. At the same time, I regret my decision more than anything else I had ever done. She was part of me. She was my everything, and I was too selfish and weak to realize it. I would give up my career and anything else to be with her again and have my happiness back.

  Maybe one day I'll find someone who made me as happy as she did. Maybe not. What I do know is that I was foolish and selfish, and throwing my marriage away is a decision that will probably haunt me for a long time.
• (#10) They Struggled To Forgive Themselves For Cheating

  From Redditor /u/CatsyKat:

  I cheated on him. I was sure that was the end of it, and needed to punish myself. He was willing to try to work through it, but I thought the damage was done, and I needed to move on to find happiness. I later... found I had been depressed for a while, and might have cheated as a desperate act of "trying to make something happen." I have never regretted a single thing more in my life.

  ...I am absolutely aware I deserve the outcome completely, and that is just something I'll have to try to live with... [A]nd even though he has forgiven me, I will never forgive myself.

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