Random Reasons Guys Go after Quiet (but Not Shy) Girls (12 items)

• (#1) Under her quiet exterior is a strong and passionate personality

  A quiet exterior is merely an admirable cover for a complex and beautiful interior. Passionate personalities, strong sincerity - these are the kind of traits that are below that soft-spoken surface. A quiet girl is who she is because she can tune out the noise and not contribute any noise herself.
• (#2) She absorbs and listens

  Rather than just blurting something out at random and without consideration, a quiet girl actually absorbs what she's hearing. She is listening to you, she is listening to her surroundings, and above all, she is listening to herself. 
• (#3) She doesn't try to make it all about her

  One unattractive quality in a girl, or any human being on planet earth, is someone who hogs the spotlight. You know these people in your social circles: it's always about them, it's never about you, and it's never about the group. But a quiet girl doesn't need the boost to her ego to draw all of the attention out of the room or emotionally drain the people around her.

  Self-centeredness can often result in over-talking, which is hardly attractive to guys who are looking for someone to spend their time (let alone their lives) with.
• (#4) She knows how to treat others

  The way to treat someone is with respect and with balance. If you are hogging the conversation, it is hard to be on your side. But this is the kind of girl who knows, whether through nature or through nurture or through both, that people should always have the chance to speak their mind. Rather than seeing this as weakness, people should see this as a sign of respect.

  Nobody deserves to be interrupted and nobody deserves to be talked over. She understands and recognizes both of these things, and she walks the walk (even if she doesn't loudly talk the talk).
• (#5) She's not awkward when it comes to awkward silences

  Silences aren't awkward - you just make it that way. Silence doesn't faze a quiet girl - and she doesn't need to fill the void with meaningless dialog like life is some crappy rom-com. 
• (#6) You know where she stands on the important issues

  Just because she's quiet doesn't mean you don't know how she feels about the important issues. 
• (#7) She fights for the things important to her

  A quiet girl stands up for what she believes in - without fail and without hesitation. She's not hot-headed about it, nor is she in your face, but she won't back down when she's standing up for the stuff she believes in.  
  
• (#8) She isn't afraid to tell you the truth

  If you can't handle the truth, don't date a quiet girl. She'll speak up when it matters and she'll tell you like it is. She'll keep you in check and her quietness in no way means she fears confrontation. She has courage and confidence; in fact, she has enough that she doesn't need to fill spaces in conversations with comfortable lies or convenient untruths.

  She'll tell you what she means and you'll often need to hear it.
• (#9) You can tell she empathizes with you

  A quiet girl doesn't make you wonder about whether or not she's listening to how you're feeling - or if she has felt that way before. 
• (#10) When she speaks up, everyone listens

  A quiet girl is only quiet until she thinks it's worth everyone's time. When something is important, she's the first to speak her mind. 
• (#11) She believes in herself

  A quiet girl is comfortable in her own shoes. And the reality is that she doesn't feel the need to brag. She doesn't need to make a scene to get attention, and she doesn't make it all about her. She's self-actualized - she believes in herself.
• (#12) She's headstrong

  Quietness should never be confused with weakness. You've heard of "the strong, silent type." A quiet girl takes things in and assesses them before blurting something out. She has the inner strength to speak when she wants, not when she feels she is supposed to.

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