Random Absolute Worst Ways Kids Found Out Their Parents Were Getting Divorced (15 items)

• (#1) At The Airport

  From an anonymous user:

  "I was five. I remember one day leaving my mom at the airport. My sister and dad were with me. I had no idea where she was going or what was going on. A few days later I began to ask questions and remember my sister telling me that my dad had 'kissed another mommy'. I didn't see or hear from my mom for at least three years after that.

  I finally found out last year the exact reasons. It turned out my dad cheated on my mom, then told her. When she reacted negatively he beat her in front of my sister who was maybe six or seven at the time. It went as far as her locking herself in a room to be safe and him breaking the door to get in and beat her more. She had tried to kill herself on three occasions but never succeeded.

  For the longest time it sucked because I didn't understand the gravity of the situation and was angry at my mom for abandoning me. Try to avoid this. If neither one of you are violent and hostile or abusive make sure that your kids spend time with both of you. And don't make your partner out to be the bad guy, no matter how tempting it may be.

  Whatever you do, try to have your kids understand the situation, don't have them wondering for more than 10 years what actually went down. Most importantly make sure they understand it isn't their fault."
• (#2) Blurting It Out

  From Rks1157:

  "My mom told me we were moving and dad wasn't coming with us, ever. It pretty much f*cked up my day." 
• (#3) The Blame Game

  From R3solv:

  "Well my dad blamed my mom for the affairs that ruined their marriage when he was the cheater and living in his sister's apartment at the time. He felt it make things easier between himself, his sister, his mother who lived downstairs, and us and them, but we all knew the truth. Instead he came off like a huge asshole who was forcing our mother out on the street after everything else he'd done because it was as always about him.

  He should have moved out and left us and my mom to care for us; instead we got stuck with him for two years before he moved out and my sister and I took over finances and rent and sh*t at 18 and 16. We never missed a damn rent check or utility bill payment, while he failed to ever pay a thing on time or at all, even when my mom worked three jobs to just put microwave meals on the table."
• (#4) What A Vacation

  From jimmy011087:

  "I was 14, and my sister was 17. It was my dad's fault (he ran off with his now-wife 13 years ago). I got told while on a family holiday and, well, that trip was basically ruined . I took it as well as I could, lobbed a glass at my dad and broke a window, but calmed down eventually.

  "As for the divorce, he then pretended his business was worthless when it was actually worth £1m+, so my mum got royally screwed over as she chose a clean break over maintenance. But luckily she worked extra hard to get a career going while looking after us and we always had food on the table, a decent house and saw them both enough."
• (#5) Attempted Kidnapping

  From TheSloth17:

  "My dad tried to steal my brothers and me away in the night before my mom got home from work. Lot of violence and police that night. So don't do that."
• (#6) Don't Make Them Choose

  From aviary83:

  "My parents pretty much did everything wrong. My sister and I went through some f*cked up sh*t...

  Nothing feels worse than feeling like you have to choose between your parents, whether it's something big like who to live with, or something relatively small like who to believe about something. My father once said that my mother and him should have lived near each other so they could co-parent more. That would have been a f*cking disaster and I'm glad they didn't. So I guess they got that one thing somewhat right."
• (#7) Shouldn't Have Been Married At All

  From zucc0:

  "They screamed at each other until my mother left. I guess it could have been better, but it was the first of a few times in my life where a huge relief came over me. Then began the negotiation, first through the courts and then through me, for visitation and general planning. That is stressful at seven. Especially when your little brother forgets his snow boots or something important and you have to organize an unscheduled meeting. People later, years after the dust settled, would tell me it wasn't about me and that confused me. Of course it wasn't about me, they were both assh*les to each other and had no business being married in the first place."
• (#8) During Deployment

  From anxiousreader:

  "My dad was deployed when they decided to split up, but he was on his way back to the states for his retirement and moved to New Mexico. Before he did that, my mom sat me down and explained that, 'Although Daddy and Mommy loved each other, they decided it would be better off to be friends.' I was nine, I didn't cry, and she honestly answered my questions and I still felt like it was my fault. My five-year-old brother didn't really understand besides the fact that they weren't going to be married anymore, but he didn't really seem to understand that Dad wasn't going to be moving back up to where we lived."
• (#9) Point Blank

  From nikkissippi121:

  "My parents aren't divorced, but they separated when I was seven. The way I remember it, I walked into the living room and my mom asked me point-blank who I wanted to live with. I cried. That's all I really remember. My mom says there was more to it, but I think she doesn't remember correctly. I think if they'd sat down with me and explained that they still cared for each other, but just weren't in love anymore, but that they'd always love me, etc., it would have been a lot easier." 
• (#10) 18 Years Later

  From Kthulu42:

  "My parents divorced so long ago I can barely remember it, but on my wedding day they still refused to stand together so I could have a photo of my biological parents with me in my bridal gown.

  18 years of he-said/she-said, of guilt tripping, of emotional manipulation. I love them both, but they didn't provide me with an emotionally healthy start to life - if one parent hates the other, then it feels like they hate part of you too."
• (#11) Constant Threats

  From IceArrows:

  "I deeply resent them for how childish they acted. They would torment me for wanting spend time with the other parent. My mother would use 'go live with your father' as a threat when I was still living with her (my dad isn't a bad person but we don't see eye-to-eye on a lot of important issues). I still hate how they involved me in their mess ('tell them ___', 'you're the reason I stayed', etc.) and how they had no sympathy for my mental health issues. I'm thankful to be an adult now and be able to have relationships with them independent of each other and also at a distance." 
• (#12) Just A Seperation

  From ColZechs:

  "My parents got divorced when I was 13. Before that, I didn't know much about divorce aside from some I had been exposed to on TV and a couple of kids I knew in school. When it happened to my parents, my emotions ranged from sad to absolutely devastated. This also probably because it happened right around my birthday during middle school, an already emotionally unstable time for me. My parents both told me it was a separation, that they were trying it out and hopefully getting back together in a month or so. That, obviously, never happened."
• (#13) Not Telling At All

  From RicDan:

  "They never really told me they got divorced, rather, they just moved to different countries out of our home country. I was a wreck when I saw my dad with another woman thinking that they were still married. I was a wreck when they fought over where I should stay. I think the only thing I really learned from their relationship is to be cynical of relationships. It took me a while to be able to trust anyone, and to this day I have pretty bad trust issue because I have seen how easily people fall apart." 
• (#14) Your Fault

  From TomBradysMom:

  "My father told me that I was the reason for the marriage and the divorce."
• (#15) Just Going

  From KirbyH64:

  "My parents got pretty heavy into drugs when I was very young. We were constantly moving around because they were spending all of their money on drugs and alcohol. Heroin, coke, meth, weed, and lots of pills. Rent payments, electricity, water, heat, and getting us to school wasn't really a big priority to them. My dad left the state for work and to seek help for himself and convinced my mother to do the same. We were staying at my aunt's house for a short while before my mother decided she didn't need help. She showed up at my aunt's house in the middle of the night with one of my dad's friends.

  She took us, moved us into a new house, in a random town, and continued doing her drugs. At this point is when sh*t really started hitting the fan. She started selling her body for drugs, she would disappear for weeks at a time and leave my siblings and I, all by ourselves with no food in the house, no money, nothing. My dad didn't even know where we were.

  Anyways, it got a lot worse before it got better." 

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