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(#11) Constant Threats
From IceArrows:
"I deeply resent them for how childish they acted. They would torment me for wanting spend time with the other parent. My mother would use 'go live with your father' as a threat when I was still living with her (my dad isn't a bad person but we don't see eye-to-eye on a lot of important issues). I still hate how they involved me in their mess ('tell them ___', 'you're the reason I stayed', etc.) and how they had no sympathy for my mental health issues. I'm thankful to be an adult now and be able to have relationships with them independent of each other and also at a distance."
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(#2) Blurting It Out
From Rks1157:
"My mom told me we were moving and dad wasn't coming with us, ever. It pretty much f*cked up my day."
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(#8) During Deployment
From anxiousreader:
"My dad was deployed when they decided to split up, but he was on his way back to the states for his retirement and moved to New Mexico. Before he did that, my mom sat me down and explained that, 'Although Daddy and Mommy loved each other, they decided it would be better off to be friends.' I was nine, I didn't cry, and she honestly answered my questions and I still felt like it was my fault. My five-year-old brother didn't really understand besides the fact that they weren't going to be married anymore, but he didn't really seem to understand that Dad wasn't going to be moving back up to where we lived."
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(#10) 18 Years Later
From Kthulu42:
"My parents divorced so long ago I can barely remember it, but on my wedding day they still refused to stand together so I could have a photo of my biological parents with me in my bridal gown.
18 years of he-said/she-said, of guilt tripping, of emotional manipulation. I love them both, but they didn't provide me with an emotionally healthy start to life - if one parent hates the other, then it feels like they hate part of you too."
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(#14) Your Fault
From TomBradysMom:
"My father told me that I was the reason for the marriage and the divorce."
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(#1) At The Airport
From an anonymous user:
"I was five. I remember one day leaving my mom at the airport. My sister and dad were with me. I had no idea where she was going or what was going on. A few days later I began to ask questions and remember my sister telling me that my dad had 'kissed another mommy'. I didn't see or hear from my mom for at least three years after that.
I finally found out last year the exact reasons. It turned out my dad cheated on my mom, then told her. When she reacted negatively he beat her in front of my sister who was maybe six or seven at the time. It went as far as her locking herself in a room to be safe and him breaking the door to get in and beat her more. She had tried to kill herself on three occasions but never succeeded.
For the longest time it sucked because I didn't understand the gravity of the situation and was angry at my mom for abandoning me. Try to avoid this. If neither one of you are violent and hostile or abusive make sure that your kids spend time with both of you. And don't make your partner out to be the bad guy, no matter how tempting it may be.
Whatever you do, try to have your kids understand the situation, don't have them wondering for more than 10 years what actually went down. Most importantly make sure they understand it isn't their fault."
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A certain research result shows that the impact of parents' divorce on children is negative and long-lasting, and as the child grows up, the negative impact will stably exist, but it is different at different stages of their life. Children in the divorced families generally feel lonely, confused, fearful, and even angry with their parents after knowing the divorce. This is why many parents choose to hide the fact of divorce until their children reach adulthood.
With regard to divorce, children are more fragile than you think, they not only have to adapt to the divorce of their parents but also to the changes that may occur in a single parent or both. The random tool shares the 15 worst ways kids know the divorce fact.
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