Random Moments Men Regret Letting A Good Woman Get Away (14 items)

• (#5) When He Started To Imagine His Ex With Other Guys, He Panicked

  From StudebakerHoch:

  Long, cohabiting relationship. We were fundamentally unable to resolve conflicts without protracted shouting matches. It wore me out. I gave up trying to preserve the relationship. She moved out. We stayed friends. Months passed, and I started to imagine her dating other guys. I panicked. Tried as hard as I could, within respectful boundaries, to get her back. I was unsuccessful.

  I'll tell ya, I just went to pieces. I can't remember ever feeling so sad, before or since. It was extremely difficult not to let thoughts of her intrude in my life without her. Had to break off contact entirely. This, too, was difficult, as we shared hundreds of mutual friends.

  And yet... I now believe that it was all for the best. Slowly, I recovered. When I imagine an alternate timeline in which we reconciled, it looks very grim indeed. I think we were (and we remain) just too different to be compatible. Although I don't involve myself in her life, nor interest myself in her activities, my friends tell me that she's doing well. And I'm doing well. There are conditions in my life that I'm working on changing (trying to change jobs, trying to buy a house, etc. - nothing really dire, in other words), but I'm certain that I'm much happier now than I was during a majority of our time together.
• (#11) They Couldn't Figure Out How To Communicate

  From Janube:

  In seven relationships, there was only one in which I told my partner I loved her. We shared a lot of nerdy interests, but the thing I'll always miss most about her is that we shared a sense of humor and playfulness to an extreme extent. I absolutely loved being around her when things were good.

  But, we weren't emotionally super compatible. I need/thrive on communication when it comes to problem solving/mitigation, but she wanted to keep everything to herself. When conflicts emerged involving each other, she was avoidant- she didn't want to approach those conversations at all. It seemed she was able to vent about them on Twitter and then either get over them or repress them well enough to not need to deal with them.

  On the other hand, I couldn't deal with problems without discussing them and doing active damage control and figuring out proactive solutions- to the point where there were a lot of things I couldn't let go of.

  In the end, the communication broke down so thoroughly that I don't think we enjoyed being around each other much for the last couple months.

  It all sucks because I'm still certain I love her, and I miss her every day, and I just want to watch TV and hold her hand while she teases me about something stupid I did or said. I wonder so often if we could have made it work if we had just tried harder to be more accommodating to each other. I still struggle to not reach out to her every couple weeks. It gets better when I'm dating, but the last three years haven't been kind to me on that front.
• (#12) He Never Manned Up And Committed To Her

  From Chris Kmieciak:

  One of my biggest love regrets was a relationship I had after my second serious one. I started to see a girl and we got along great. The romance felt like something out of ‘Gossip Girl.’ We were basically Chuck and Blair. We'd fight about stupid things, fall apart, but the lust to be together was always there. The whole thing fell apart after I wasn't ready to give her the full commitment she wanted.

  Thinking back on it maybe if I had committed more we would have had it all and gotten past our other issues.
• (#7) He Was Too Casual About Abortion

  From Anonyb11:

  I was in a serious relationship with a girl for a while. We shared dreams about marriage, having kids, etc.

  We were 19 and one day over the phone she brought up a "what-if" scenario. "If I got pregnant what would you do with our baby?" I tried to think about it rationally, instead of emotionally. I said if it was early on in the pregnancy I would consider aborting, but if it was further along and I felt I was killing a baby I would def keep it. It depends.

  She was mortified by my answer; the idea that I even considered abortion was monstrous to her. I was just trying to have a conversation and she took it out of proportion, imo.

  She didn't talk to me for a couple of days till she called me out of the blue to break up, blaming me for not loving her.

  In hindsight I wish I answered the question differently, years later now having a child and would never consider abortion now that the situation is actually real.

  After a couple weeks of breaking up she found someone else, she has been with him ever since, years later.
• (#13) The Eternal Game Of 'What If'

  From Dusan Micic:

  I regret not being more aggressive or putting myself out there more. I've run into some really great girls that when I look back, I realize they were interested but I was far too shy to acknowledge it at the time.

  Sometimes I guess you just have to lay all your cards on the table and take a hard chance, or else you'll just be stuck thinking what could've been.
• (#1) He Thought He Was Too Good For Her... Until He Saw The Other Options

  From Xlukethemanx:

  I was a little sh*t who thought I was too good for her, and left. She was my first real girlfriend so I didn’t really understand what I was getting into. Then I have 9 months of HORRIBLE relationships and hookups and realized the mistake I made. I waited until she was single again and got her back, promising that I wouldn’t let her go this time.

  We celebrate our 9 year anniversary this weekend, bought a house, and are getting married next year.

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