Random Tips About How To Successfully Flirt (12 items)

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  (#5) Focus On Positives In Your Conversation

  At the end of the day, kindness really does make you more appealing. This may seem elementary, but it's important to note that flirting should focus on the positives and kind interactions. Hearing someone's sad story right out of the gate is not a way to invite interest from other people, even if you're goal is to land a pity date or make someone feel sorry for you. Genuine attraction and interest tend to stem from initial conversations that revolve around happier, or at least less loaded, topics. So, when flirting, go for the feel-good story rather than the Debbie Downer monologue or coworker teardown spiel that's going to bring the whole room down.
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  (#10) Buy Them A Warm Drink

  There's something to be said for skipping the bar scene and grabbing a cup of coffee on your next date. A Yale study found that we often associate warm drinks with feelings of coziness, comfort, and generosity. A warm drink, at least on a biological level, demonstrates that the person who bought us the drink cares about us. And the feelings we project are more caring, too. "Physical warmth can make us see others as warmer people," the study found, "but also cause us to be warmer - more generous and trusting - as well."
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  (#7) Tease In A Playful Manner

  When it comes to flirting, few people like to be toyed with or negged. Some gentle, good-natured teasing, however, is different. Used properly, a lighthearted tease can be an effective means of wooing and seduction. But remember: teasing is all about intention, and it is the intention we respond to... or don't. Make it clear you are having fun, and you want to have more fun, and don't rely on snarkiness.
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  (#11) Wear Red

  Both men and women respond to the color red. Men find it the most sexually desirable color a woman can wear. Women, too, are more often drawn to men who wear red. Part of this is cultural, as we're often programmed to see red as the color of passion, strength, and status. It's biological as well. In the animal kingdom, red is associated with dominance and "alpha" behaviors. When you wear red while flirting, you are upping your game at the instinctual level. 
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  (#2) Compliment Them

  Even if apathetic is your type, consider giving out a few compliments while flirting. No one is immune to a genuine, thoughtful compliment. In fact, we have a biochemical reaction when people say nice things about us. When someone gives us a flattering remark, the reward center of our brain lights up. Paying a potential mate a compliment is an ideal way to flirt and get your message across. Just avoid the cheesy, lame, and overused compliments out there. Say something genuine - and in an appropriate moment - and you will make a lasting and positive impression.
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  (#12) Tilt Your Head

  Oftentimes, when people are interested in us, we are interested in them. Science has shown us that expressing such interest during flirting is an excellent way to open up communication and pique interest levels. On a biological level, we tend to be drawn to "classically" male and female characteristics, depending on what our sexual preferences may be. According to one study, "Women are more alluring if they angle their head forwards, so they have to look slightly upwards. In contrast, men become more masculine if they tilt their head back and look slightly down their nose."

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