(#1) Long Distance Turned Live-In
Posted by Redditor /u/ThePeasantKingM:
I have a friend from Northwestern China, a good two hours by plane from Wuhan. While in college, she met a guy and they began dating, and last year they began to talk about getting married. Her boyfriend invited my friend to spend some days with his family before Chinese New Year...in Wuhan.
Since she was supposed to be in Wuhan for only a few days, she packed lightly and stayed at her boyfriend's house. She was scheduled to return home the day after the city was closed off, so she had no other option than to stay with her boyfriend's family. How difficult can it be? They were already planning to get married by this time next year, so what could go wrong?
Oh boy...
It turns out her boyfriend had a completely different persona with his family than away from them, and now my friend has seen who he really is and she HATES it. It didn't last long before she realised she definitely couldn't marry this guy, but for the time being, she had no other option than stay with him and his family. While my friend had already met his family, and they are very nice to her, she was on the brink of a mental collapse from having to spend her whole day with a guy she now despises. Fortunately for her, she could return home earlier this week.
(#2) Break Up
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Posted by Redditor /u/a_new_guy_on_reddit:
Me and my wife separated 3 weeks ago. We were both in the process of finding different places to live but our town is shut down now. Needless to say it's been awkward and tense for us
(#3) The Name Says It All
Posted by Redditor /u/sadthrowaway4me:
Just yesterday I was working from home while my wife was finishing up her last day at work. Her iPad was dinging like crazy with text messages so I went to put it on do not disturb. As I unlocked it (yes we know each others pins), I saw the long text stating that she doesn't want to be with me anymore...blah blah blah.
We had a good long talk when she got home. She is unsure if she actually wants to leave me. She's staying with her parents for the weekend and we have a counseling session planned for Tuesday to help us figure out if we are going to try to fix the things that are broken in our marriage, or cut our losses and move on.
It has been a long and difficult day for me.
[Edit] Thanks for all the encouragement (and the reality check from some of you). I'm so sorry for those of you going through similar circumstances. I have a lot of me to work on and I have decided that this will be a turning point in my life regardless of the outcome of our relationship. In the meantime I'm feeling incredibly lonely and I don't think I have ever wanted a hug so bad in my entire life.
(#4) Parent Trap
Posted by Redditor /u/LeadingAvocado:
I am currently quarantined with my parents who parents are in the middle of a divorce (dad decided to get a girlfriend after 27 years of marriage) and they aren’t speaking to each other but using me as a go between. It’s been the longest week of my life.
(#5) Boyfriend Picked The Moment To Drop Relationship Bomb
Posted by Redditor /u/acting-philosophical:
Little different. Basically, during the quarantine my boyfriend dropped a huge bomb on me. He said he didn’t know if he could be with someone who isn’t a Christian. This obviously broke my heart, but he assures me he still wants to be with me, he just has to soul search, etc. I, however, am not sure I would want things to continue. I’ve been keeping it mostly to myself, but he can definitely tell. Sometimes I can’t even stand being in the same room with him, it makes me so upset. So it’s hell. It’s mental hell, for sure.
(#6) Wishful Thinking
Posted by Redditor /u/heyitscas:
God if only that were my housemate and his partner. But no, instead I'm stuck here with Mr. and Mrs. Celebrate-Monthly-Anniversaries.
(#7) Trying To Maintain Calm
Posted by Redditor /u/coffeerun21:
We started the divorce process in February after 11 years of marriage and two kids, ages 6 & 3. We’ve been together since 2003. We agreed to keep it civil and part as friends as both of us agreed the marriage is over, although I wanted the divorce in the first place. I could cope with this easily by leaving the house on weekends, visiting friends and family, and then going to work during the week made the rest of the time bearable. He’s been at work up til Friday and while he hasn’t been told they can’t come back in, it’s likely coming. Friday he came home at noon and I feel like I’m crawling out of my skin at the prospect of being trapped in a house with him.
The anxiety and uncertainty of what’s going to happen in society is one thing, but it’s taken me YEARS to get up the nerve to leave this alcoholic, verbally and emotionally abusive man...and now that I did, society is shutting down. The added anxiety and uncertainty of when will I ever be free of this person is almost too much. He said to me the other day, “I think I should just stay here (we agreed I would keep the house) instead of move out, you know, in case you need my protection” and I almost burst into tears from the thought of being trapped with this man and never being able to get away.
So for me, it’s awful. It’s taking everything I have within me to maintain calm and neutral so as to not set him off and maintain peace for the kids. I never realized how lonely I could be until I was cut off from people who actually like and want to be around me and forced to be with someone who doesn’t.
(#8) It's Very Complicated
Posted by Redditor /u/Lilac100:
A few days before quarantine I found out he was having an affair. He’s always been a very difficult person and I decided this was it.
I have been in and out of hotels and Airbnb’s and travelling between there to our house to see our kid.
It certainly adds a complication to everything.
(#9) A Story Of Everything Working Out
Posted by Redditor /u/Snacksmcgee07:
We broke up three days ago. Good thing we have always been best friends. Right now we have gone through our "if the world ends" plans. I'd say I'm really thankful we agreed to stay as roomates until we both are financially secure. Now I'm just quarantined with my best friend who I know has my back and vice versa.
(#10) Change Of Heart
Posted by Redditor /u/
Actually...good? I think I changed my mind now?
A little before all this started I made it clear that I was considering divorce and he started making an effort. Now, with the exception of the ever-present fear of getting too sick to care for our children or society crumbling and being unable to meet our basic needs, there aren't any distractions. And now I'm finally getting the things I've been asking for for years. ("Things" being communication and non-tangible lifestyle choices)
(#11) 'Slowly Losing My Mind'
Posted by Redditor /u/bluevioletta:
I told my husband I wanted a divorce four days before the sh*t hit the fan. I knew I'd have to wait a few weeks to move out, but at least before I had a job I could go to, bars to get out of the house, friends I could hang with, etc. Now I'm trapped here. I'd say I'm slowly losing my mind, but the truth is it's happening rather quickly!
(#12) She Wants Revenge
Posted by Redditor /u/Cjustice1:
My roommate broke up with his live in girlfriend like a week ago. I was never particularly fond of her but I dealt with it for him. And now we’re all stuck at home and she’s doing things just to piss us off. But part of our lease says that everyone living there has to be on it so we can’t exactly kick her out. It’s awful.
(#13) Setting Up Boundaries
Posted by Redditor /u/not_another_goth:
So...I'm in quarantine with my ex-husband that I live with. I plan on still moving out in June to the epicenter of my state's outbreak.
We get along OK. He's sleeping on the sofa, so the light from me playing Animal Crossing doesn't bug him, and I'll go out driving aimlessly while he's nerding out with his friends online so I don't bug him.
(#14) Because Of 'Manopause'
Posted by Redditor /u/FroggyB:
Holy sh*t, that's me! Married 21 years and its been dead for the past eight. I am ready to end it and move on.
In February, I started the divorce conversation with her. She went into therapist mode, thought I was going through 'manopause' and that was the problem, not our marriage.
My biggest fear is a war divorce so I said OK I'll get my hormones checked. It was the peaceful way to proceed.
Two nights ago, I started the divorce conversation again. Told her I got my hormones checked and I'm tip top. I am totally done with our marriage. It's over for me and there's no going back.
She wants to go back to marriage counseling when there quarantine is over. We've been three times and its never gotten better. I said no thanks, I'm done.
She's in denial, now acting all nice to me, as if our marriage problems of the past ten years never happened. It's really weird. I want to push divorce forward. But the quarantine makes that difficult. And the fake niceness, pretending everything is fine, is f*cking weird.
(#15) 'Not Fun'
Posted by Redditor /u/Area_man_claims:
My ex and I decided to get divorced a few weeks ago, and she is still planning on moving out at the end of the month. We thought we would both be busy enough for it not to be that hard, but then pandemic happened.
It’s... not fun.
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