(#6) If One Spouse Cheats, The Other May Not Necessarily Get More Money
From Redditor /u/jmremote:
At least in Maryland, people assume that because their spouse was cheating, they'll be able to get more money in alimony from the judge than they would have gotten otherwise.
(#8) Don't Try To Get Out Of Paying Child Support
From Redditor /u/mattbaum:
Potential male clients come to me asking for help getting their child support lowered for all kinds of reasons that make sense to them but nobody else, especially not lawmakers, judges, or lawyers. My favorite is when they say they just had another kid with [a] new wife or girlfriend, and they expect that means their preexisting child support obligation for that kid who lives 100% with mom should be cut drastically. When I tell them it doesn't really work that way, they get bent out of shape.
Also, they sometimes come to me and ask for a modification only to learn that our state's guidelines went up since their last court order and that a modification would probably mean they pay more money - guys look at me like I must be crazy.
(#11) It's Rare To Get Full Custody Of A Child
From Redditor /u/ermahgerdsterderner:
I'm a legal assistant for a family law attorney. The amount of clients that tell me they want full custody of their kids and actually think they have a shot at getting it is astonishing. I don't think I've ever seen a party get all of their custodial rights taken away from them.
(#1) Being Civil Makes The Process Faster And Cheaper
From Redditor /u/FormalChicken:
Asked a friend about this once.
He said... many people come in peacefully together. It's not the standard, and it's not everyone, but it happens "way more than you'd expect." Both spouses just want the divorce and to move on. Apparently it happens quite a bit. He said that sometimes it devolves into a bit of a [disagreement] over assets, sometimes kids, but more often than not if a couple comes in together, he has a bad day because he makes the least money off of them.
He said one couple, collectively after their divorce, sent him a Christmas basket one year... Basically they wanted out and he helped navigate the legalities of it, and everyone was happy.
He also had a story of a woman who had to consult with two private investigators for her husband cheating. The first one she hired was the woman he was having an affair with.
(#2) Being Clever And Charming Is Pretty Transparent
From Redditor /u/goodtuesday:
I often receive warnings from clients about how "clever" or "smart" their spouse is and to be careful to not let them manipulate me.
I don't want to be insulting so I just say something like "I am a professional, etc."
In reality the other spouse has never been very clever at all. They just had power over my client that they built through long-term emotional and psychological [manipulation]. The client is usually pretty delighted to finally see their [ex-spouse] get ripped to shreds in court.
(#7) Spite Can Drag A Case Out Longer Than Necessary
From Redditor /u/JCKDRPR:
If you can put away your bullsh*t and relish the fact that you are no longer going to be with this person you don't want to be with, let's make it easy. I've had complex divorces go super easy, and I've had simple ones drag on for years out of spite.
Listen. To. Your. Attorney. You know what a good attorney does if he finds himself in a legal predicament? Gets an attorney. [You're] paying for his experience in the system.
Almost guaranteed, if you go to trial, you will leave with less than you hoped for. You can 99% of the time get something better and cheaper if you agree.
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Not all marriages will have a happy ending. Divorce may be the best solution. But divorce is not a simple matter. Both spouses may need to negotiate and communicate on issues such as child custody, joint property, and joint debt, especially when they choose to divorce by agreement. However, divorce negotiation does not always lead to a satisfactory result, it is impossible to reach an agreement through negotiation.
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